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Recently, Chrys heard the story of near divorce and eventual reconciliation of a friend and his wife and that got him thinking. I heard the story too, thought about it for about an hour or so but it didn't effect me the way it effected Chrys. He was shocked, surprised and eventually it got him thinking about relationships so much so that he started looking at other couples trying to guess if they too have problems. We both though agree on one thing that no matter what the nature of our differences(if any) we are too committed to think of separation as an option. In addition to commitment I think we have some sort of a connection. It may seem far fetched and idealistic but I do believe in the concept of soul-mates. We couldn't have been as happy and as committed with different partners. We somehow would have found a path to each other eventually. We accept each other (occasional criticism notwithstanding) warts and all. Every human being has twin personalities, one for people he/she trusts-family, friends and one for the rest of the world - a mask of good behaviour. Very early in our relationship the masks were off and we got very comfortable with each other. We started off as friends and then became inseparable.
Sometimes I believe that Chrys tolerates and puts up with more nonsense than I have to, but some days that belief changes :)
Whatever it is I don't think I could have had such an easy going yet adventure filled relationship with anyone else.
Happy Diwali... spend it with your loved ones :)
4 comments:
:) After reading your post, I told your story (how it all began) to my roommate.
Quite true of what you say about not being the same with a different person.
I agree that Chrys has to tolerate a lot more. I will support this statement until my last breath. :)
Wait a minute... you have a room-mate... and you are a story-teller!
That's news to me... God bless the room-mate's soul unless your room-mate has a bigger trick up her sleeve...even bigger than the "STARE" and the "Cup handed slap chop".
And about your last point of supporting statements till your last breath, let me tell you that statements usually come with custom fitted supports.. some three legged and some four, so you can withdraw support anytime before your last breath... try it.
:) Phew! Thanks! Its nice not to be supporting anything when one is only a two legged creature.
Love is a blessing. Differences are inevitable, but I feel we shouldn't run for 'something better' and 'something new' all the time. It takes courage, compromise and a hell lot of patience to sustain a relationship. But I think, its worth it!
Hope you had a good Diwali! Good to know a little bit of your story! :)
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